Ok, so I’m sorry I hurt so many feelings and broke so many hearts last time I talked about this. Apparently there are a lot of nice guy best friends who can’t be mean to little miss flirty pants and want an easier way to swing her over. Fine. Here are ways even the “nice guy” can gently break down the best friend woman of his dreams who won’t look twice at him.
Slip on your pink t-shirt and start taking notes, pretty boy.
1) Show interest in her close friend. If she has a girl friend who is cute (obviously not as cute as her, but whatever) then get her
to introduce you to the friend. Start chatting her up, charm her with your smile and wit, and suddenly the GOYD (girl of your dreams) will start feeling that little twinge of jealousy. Remember: to the new girl you are the mysterious guy who can easily come off as fun and charming and win her over. Your best friend still sees you as “her best guy friend” and you’ve lost value in her eyes. When another woman starts showing interest in you, it suddenly forces her to see your value as well.
2) Ask her opinion on another woman. This seems like it might fall into number 1, but it doesn’t. If you are dating someone else (just casually, not a full-on relationship or she’ll start to think you might be cheating on your girlfriend), tell her some intimate moments from the date and ask her opinion. “What did she mean by that?” Again, this has the same effect as number 1 in that it forces the girl to realize some other woman is winning your affections, and that will sting her pride after a short while, prompting her to action.
3) Stop being there for every call. When she calls you, say “Hey, can I call you back in a couple of hours? I’m with someone.” Even if that “someone” is just the latest basketball game on ESPN, you say that and mean it. She hangs up, her mind is suddenly reeling with the fact that you–her always-there listening buddy–might suddenly be developing a life. It might break your heart to not talk to her, but I promise you her mind is racing a lot more than yours if she has any potential interest in you at all.
4) Use Facebook to your advantage. 
Yes, it may seem a little lame, but if she has an account, you should have an account. Friend her, of course, but then look up folks you knew. You can probably find your old high school girlfriend, college girlfriends, and babes you used to know quiet well. Friend them all. After that, it’s just a matter of getting those wall posts and replying to such. Keep the conversation public as much as possible so the GOYD can see this and let it stew. And hey, maybe you’ll make that missed connection from college after all in the process!
Yes, I know these all seem to revo
lve around making the girl jealous and playing mind games with her, but so what? You’re telling me she’s never done that to you? You’re just taking what you learned and making it work for you.
Ok, that’s it. I’m through trying to help the best friend find love. It’s time for me to move on to other topics, so this little trilogy of love is over. Hope it’s been helpful to you and you get to put her through the mattress or carry her down the aisle, whichever you’re shooting for.
July 6, 2009 at 2:15 am |
Yep, making the girl jealous often works. Painful for her, but things can and often do change after applying these tactics!